I wasted most of my time in secondary school on dating girls. I wish I spent more time and effort studying, but as a boy growing up in puberty, the hormones affect the brain. Unfortunately, there was no subject in the academic curriculum to teach me how to love, nor my family would openly discuss this at home; therefore, I learned my lesson the hard way by trial and error, which was a bit of regret. As an introvert, I was too shy to let the girl know I like her. It was so pure, so superficial to be attracted…


What if I could write my destiny? I could not travel back in time to change what happened, but I could write about how I remember it and interpret my memory from experience. I could not change what is happening now, but I can write my current thoughts down to release my stress as meditation and therapy for my mental health. I could not predict what will happen, but I could write about the future that I would like to see and be specific about the goals and dreams that I want to achieve.

What if the best self-help hook…


It makes sense to start my life story with my mum. Without her, I would not exist in this world writing this essay. I have no idea what happened in the world before I was born. According to an interview with my mum, she told me that I was born as an accident, not a plan. It is probably true that I was an only child, and my mum’s sisters did not have children today. There was an option of abortion, but my mum somehow decided not to kill me as it was a life, which is something like a…


What is your greatest fear? Some people are afraid of dogs, some people are scared of spiders, but we are fearful of public speaking for most people. We are constantly worried about being judged by others and being laughed at by others. However, I am taking a class to learn public speaking because I understand the benefit of it. It is an important skill to master, and it has an impact on three levels: personal, professional and societal.

I almost forgot my fear of public speaking until I saw a girl cry in front of me. The moment is so…


The hardest communication is to tell your colleague that you stinted. I mean BO, which stands for Body Odor. But how to tell him? Frankly speaking, I have been tolerating his terrible smell, and a few colleagues are also suffering, but I have to tell him, even though it is an awkward conversation. What I do is use a hybrid of initiating and supportive communication styles.

It was a couple of months ago. A new colleague joined the company on the first day. His name is KK. Before he was onboarded, we only met online via zoom call during the…


Imagine you live in North Korea, would you be sceptical about what you see every day? Is the Kim family regime the greatest god in the world? Is South Korea a terrible place because of evil America? Shall people be grateful for this dictatorship?

It is hard to imagine life in North Korea until watching the interview of Park Yeon-mi, who is the author of the book To Live, written about her real experience as a North Korean defector. …


You have the leisure to read about my article, this is thanks to our society strive for efficiency and economy. Otherwise, I would be spending most of my time hunting and farming to produce food for survival instead of having the luxury to write this essay. Due to the improvement of our country productivity, I could spend time pursuing my interest.

Using the mantra of continuous improvement, our society is transformed from rural tribes to the modern city as an economic powerhouse admired throughout the world for the efficiency of its production and the quality of its products. The miracle…


Today I took the first dose of vaccination. Think about it for a second and appreciate how amazing it is for teamwork behind the scene to make this happens.

Firstly, there is a group of scientists who dedicate their lives to research in the field. In the past, a stereotype of a scientist is like a lonely person who works by himself or herself. In reality, that is not how science works, as it requires teamwork to solve the complex challenge we see in the world today. It takes many years of accumulation of knowledge with many geniuses in chemistry…


If you ever walk a dog, you would be amazed by the curiosity the puppy has. A short fifteen minutes walk would take one hour, because the dog would get interested in every single tree along the way, stayed and smell every area and even try to taste every leaves on the road. Sometimes, the dog would wonder how different things taste like, ranging from rubbish tissue paper to rotten fruit fallen on the ground. …


Let me ask you a question, what is the reason for you to quit your job? One of the common reasons for leaving is because people don’t like their boss. I got interested in research on the topic of leadership because I had a really bad boss.

It was four years ago. On the first day of my new job, I was very excited to join an international IT consulting firm working as a junior software engineer. I met the director of my team, his name is Mr Lau. His background was very impressive, with years of work experience in…

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